Despite our best efforts, sometimes we cannot avoid an argument, and we cannot escape those conflicts when we are faced with angry feelings and angry attitudes. Fighting is a part of life, just as happiness is. Even so, after the fight you might end up with mixed feelings that can see you looking for more fights, or feeling depressed and isolated.

To counteract such feelings (that might not necessarily be angry feelings, but as a result of your anger), you can turn to prayer, meditation and even colour therapy, or aromatherapy. Colour therapy and aromatherapy are easy enough to be conducted yourself, without the need to attend a specialised practitioner.

Colour. Make sure that they are earthly colours: beige, all the shades of brown, green and blue will work wonderfully. If you cannot change your surrounding colours, then change your environment and take a walk through a park or by the ocean.

Aromatherapy. Turn to aromas like cinnamon and clover; if you can, use an oil burner with a “Christmassy” blend, or make your own with citric/fruity, cinnamon, clover and wood scents.

You can also help yourself with your intake: eat a lot of salads, apples and teas. If you are willing, drink a cup of cinnamon tea and see how it can help you feel more at ease and let go of your negativity.

One of the most popular means to help you deal with anger (either at the office, school or home) is the use of voodoo dolls. These dolls are in no way related or manufactured in the religious Voodoo way - they are just small human-like figures made of cloth, clay or rubber and into which you stick pins, needles, and staples. They are used to “vent” your anger that you might have towards your co-workers, or even your boss.

However, opinions to the effectiveness of the dolls are contradictory at best. Many scholars and other experts are of the opinion that voodoo dolls do not lower the angry feelings, but rather increase the violent feelings until they need to be expressed. At this point, the doll no longer suffices and the feelings are taken out on the person in question.

The other group of specialists is divided into two large segments: one that agrees somewhat but states that all it takes is to change the form of the toy and the name: instead of a human-like figure (of a voodoo doll), change it to a square and rename it – this will lessen the desire to harm the individual.

The other group states that sound-of mind people are aware that voodoo dolls are only intended to be “vents” so that there will be no escalating needs.

Being angry is part of human nature. Nonetheless, being angry all the time or for a large part of your day can cause serious affections, such as:

* High Blood pressure
* Migraines
* Gastritis and ulcers
* Liver problems
* Spleen problems

Other problems can appear as a consequence of a lifetime of anger; in every case, the ailment that appears has to be monitored and treated under medical supervision, which, in turn, means doctor’s fees and medications; a slow financial leak that will prevent you from using this money for more pleasant things (such as a holiday).

When you are angry, massive amounts of blood are rushed to and forced into the main organs of your body; this happens because the body is not rationalising that you are angry (for example, because your co-worker posed your idea as his) - all your body will recognise is that you are in “attack mode” and as such, will make sure that you look fierce.

Therefore, it will be a lot more to your benefit if you manage your anger episodes. Consider that you might be very angry, and the person that is causing you to be angry will be as happy as a clam while you suffer with severe gastritis and ulcers. It simply is not worth it.